What has Hardened our hearts?

I write this note with deep thoughts
It came to my mind after i was in the clinic waiting to be attended my eyes met a beautiful little girl she kept staring into my eyes with her beautiful large brown eyes. she held a lolly pop : so i smiled at her and then she walked right towards me; used her teeth to break the candy into two and then gave me the half part of the candy i was amazed by her behavior. Then i asked her name then she smiled and ran back to the lady she was with!. I couldn't help but think what has hardened our hearts? why is there so much hatred ? why cant we be just like the little care free child who wouldn't mind sharing something as little as a candy? Yet the answers seemed so difficult!
Being an adult we think hiding the bruises we hold in our hearts is a remedy but that only makes it hard to see behind that mask and then we bear a burden of a secret stone.... but its not like that a child cries when sad and smiles when happy ..we don't have to prove were always happy. All i'm saying is sometimes under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved. That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.
That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.
That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular. so cry if u have too but just know 1 thing i wont mind you crying on my shoulder .

EVERY DISAPPOINTMENT NA CORRECT BLESSING!!!!!

Every disappointment Na Correct blessing o my people!
H*
Our past is one to write about..We were doing alright but then you lied to me… and broke our trust your apologies are some that I’m not sure if I’m going to accept this time…
We don’t need a reason to be sad cause people that make you sad care more if you show them your sad but no I won’t be sad…for what reason should I be sad? I’ve got a great friend and a family that loves me so why should I be sad.
Nothing is ever permanent one way or the other we loose it. In my case I lost two so called “friends” at the same time and then I realized well that’s life some people make You upset and some cheer you up and as soon as one is gone another one comes .That’s how we continue the circle of life especially in terms of friendship. Interacting with people can be hard and as we grow older it becomes harder you learn words like hypocrisy, heartbreak, betrayal and enemy. But then there is a second side to a coin right? Likewise there is love, true friendship and loyalty. This is very rare nowadays. We can’t all be equal to some people the word friendship forever really exists but to some it’s just a mere joke. In life you meet people, some you never think about again, some you wonder what happened to them, there are some that you wonder if they ever think about you and then there are some you wish you never had to think about again... but you do.
But then I ask myself why do we keep making the same mistake and hardly learn from it? I guess as humans we were created with a deficiency called “weakness” and making a mistake reminds us that we are only human and are naturally meant to make much mistakes and learn from it. I mean without making a mistake in life that would just define a person as perfect and yes we all know no one is.Nowadays you can’t tell a hypocrite from a genuinely sincere person. Like they say your best friend could be your worst enemy… Mehn na now the word make sense to me o! sha in dis my small mind now there’s no room for regret the past is done and gone and I have surely learnt from my mistakes. Its time that makes you wise and the truth that makes you stronger…
So abeg beware of people that pretend to be your friend
Ps.
If they act like snakes in the green grass cut that grass immediately cause when the grass is cut the snakes will show!

Whats on her mind Today?

She sits down to think? Is the problem with her or is the problem that she thinks she has a problem......

All through her thoughts are all these numerous questions but ama break it down to just ten.

1. Why is she so cautious?

Hmmh maybe its cause a lot of us, from an early age have been taught to fear men and strangers. It was mostly our parents' attempt to protect us, but a lot of times the social conditioning sticks. For a woman, the consequences of making a mistake far outweighs the consequences of letting an opportunity go by. I mean say you're a guy and you go out with a woman. What's the worst that can happen? She turns out to be ugly and you take her home. What's the worst thing that can happen to a woman? The guy can take her to some remote location and rape her. Self-defense or not, most women cannot take on a guy one-on-one. Yeah, most men aren't rapists either...but it's far better to be cautious than to make the mistake.

If you look at some psychological studies asking people what they regret most, women mostly regret DOING something, while men mostly regret NOT DOING something (ex. sleeping with person X).
Lastly, women who get approached a lot learn that most guys and most dates tend not to be worth it and it gets really dissappointing.There isn't enough time out there to waste on relationships or bad dates, and unless I feel a date will be good (i.e. there is attraction and comfort), I'd rather do something else with my time.

2. Why is she so pyshed about committments?

I don't think ANY man can really empathize with a woman the way he can empathize with another man; female sex issues are very different from the male sex issues, in that the pressures they are under (don't be a "slut", don't be "easy", don't get pregnant, etc) are so different from that of the male sex issues (don't be a pussy, take the initiative, get laid a lot, etc).

But anyway, the idea is this: women face a much greater risk of harm in dealing with the opposite sex than men do, and by age 20 or so, most women have been harmed (or at least almost been harmed) by men enough times to have a slightly paranoid default attitude toward them. The idea is, a man is a creep until proven otherwise. If you think this is harsh imagine this scenario ( That is for them guys:

1) you wake up tomorrow, and because of some freak biological accident, most women are suddenly bigger, stronger, and more sexually aggressive than men are

2) you turn on the news, and start seeing an endless stream of stories of men being raped and murdered by the newly masculinized women

3) you notice that women you aren't at all attracted to are staring at you and hollering obscene sexual innuendos at you; remember that these girls are much larger and stronger than you and you just saw ten different stories of women raping and murdering men in the news earlier today

4) let's say one day a particularly large, ugly, scary looking woman starts following you home. you try to tell people, but they think you're paranoid.

5) now assume that assumptions 1 to 4 have been true ALL YOUR LIFE


... in this scenario, do you think maybe you'd ever on the side of caution in dealing with women? well, this is the reality women deal with when it comes to men.

3. Why cant she give him another chance?

She always made the mistake of giving him a chance to explain and he always got away with it . Cause he was really good at persuading her.But she got fed up with always listening to his flamezee excuses. Even if it hurt her real bad to see them finally part ways deep inside her soul she knew it was the right to do. He had no right to treat her the way he did.And hopefully he would realise his mistake soon enough.Sometimes when we are emotionally invested in a relationship it is hard for us to let go because we feel if we hold on just a little bit longer our investment will pan out and we will hit the love gold mine. That is not true here. generally speaking that is not the way it works with men. They enjoy the hunt going after the woman they had last dated after. And i really find that amazingly silly.

4. why does she stick to old moments?

Well in those old memories lies mysteries of how and why life gets compicated. And it has been scientifically proven that old memories stick permanently in our brains. And it never lets go it just depends on how u make does memories into something positive. even though sometimes flash backs make you feel kinda weird.

5. Why does her life always seem complicated?

Complicated and simple are actually two sides of the same coin: in order to see complexity, you have to have the notion of simplicity, and vice-versa. So neither complexity NOR simplicity have any independent reality of their own.

But so what? That's not really what we humans are concerned about when this question comes up, is it? What we want to really know is "why am I confused, and how can I know what's important and what to focus on?" There's an anxiety associated with this sense that life is so complex that it's pulling us in many directions at once and we can't get "centered".Life is essentially only as complicated as we make it. We do go through rough patches, but they don't last forever.

Life is not about drama. I have friends that always have drama around them. They are exhausted and frantic most of the time.

Now during the teen years, life is complicated because you are learning how to be an adult and your hormones are going crazy. But, once again, that is a temporary thing.

We' ll thats about it! Well keep you posted when other thoughts come through this weird mind of mine.

A beautiful Morning

I’m sure you’re wondering. What’s so special about this morning? Well yeah the sun still rose from the east and the cock still crowed cooko –rooko! But that’s all normal. This morning scents different from the other mornings. It scents better than even the scent of rain drop on dry soil. Even better than the fresh air from the ocean wave. The reason I love this morning I don’t know but one thing I know is that I just fell in love with this particular morning. It hit me yester night when the stars lost their glitter all because of that man ………That man that won you ; has run off and undone you .That great beginning has seen a final end. Don’t know what happened but I guess it’s all a crazy game. Let me just save myself the bruises. Something is just not right. Just to think about it I tried to do everything to get back but you couldn’t love me. It doesn’t matter what I want anymore. My pride won’t let me stay around waiting for you to love me back. And now I can’t hold on, so now I want to respect myself. We can’t just act like everything is going to work out by itself? But the more and more I wait for you . You tried to play me like a fool and also abused my love. I’m ready to be heartbroken cause I can’t see further on my own world of this moment. I can see a better time when all my dreams come true. Then this though crossed my mind......What do girls really want? When I took a stroll this morning I imagined meeting the right guy; and him walking along with me at the other side of the road and us just glaring at each other. I feel like everyone’s life is moving on and I’m just left behind. That old love is gone and I have since carried on. It’s a beautiful morning.

My hero

Whats a fantasy?
whats a dream?
If they are as true as they seem....
Then can i make this a reality?
All these thoughts rushed to my fragile mind as i was i walking through the narrow stream...
So soaked in make believe....My only feelings were to scream my lungs out and yell.
So as to bring to the missing piece part i need.
I need a hero im so tired of falling for zero's.
He' s got to be tough
its got to be love
And if its not love then let it be a person that makes me happy no matter the situation at hand.
His got to be strong enough to protect me.

Today it occured to me that most of the people i relate to as "friends" dont fit the defination of friends.But the few i relate to as my close pals fit the defination well.So is it to say that in d new era we r in theres a new definition for friends? Or is my way of thinkn different from others?Im i really complicated? All these words rushed my mind in .......Cause i dont get whats so complicated about me.
Does the word complicated and weird fit the defination of me?
Sometimes i feel some definations are just based on everyones perspective ryt?Cause what u may refer to as bad i may see as norm and what u may refer to as weird i may see as norm.
So probably theres no need for a dictionary.
its all based on the inner mind and how d neurons transmitt the info ryt?
Therefore no one has the right to judge a thing or rather define a thing in a fixed way.
Well im still in d middle of it...den i'll keep u posted
xXx

Death

Death!
Death is just a part of life. No one can escape its clutches and its horror full reality. Isn’t it crazy how you think you got your whole life planned just to find out it was never in your hands. The more i hear of people dyeing the more i think of how am going to end i just hope i leave these earth peacefully. I wonder if we really realise that we have no much time. And when the person finally departs you ask this question...why did you have to go? You don’t see these drastic changes coming it could either make you or break you. And when we feel it’s the right time tends out to be too late... And when i want you near me then you’re gone. I just wonder why we wait till every last minute to do the right things. Especially when the situation can’t be reversed like that of death..It’s an irreversible situation that we all must face in this life. So we just have to accept it and be prepared. No one knows the situation you are in but I know that i hear your voice and it never stops ringing in my eardrums and that smile of yours like a breath of rain on dry soil; I wonder what you’re going through there. It’s a lonely world; I know you will survive. I have no choice than to move on but yet i always put you at the back of my mind and picture you being proud of me. There comes a day that i stay on my own talking to myself and I’m sure people thinking i have totally lost it! I guess I’m still holding on to a little of yesterday...

Secret: The plain truth
If you want my future forget my past..... You used to be a lover but all of a sudden you want to be a friend!
Are you for real? I really want to know what you really want. Here’s the story from A-Z. Once upon a broken heart. It all started like a mere joke until I realised you really stole my heart because you were always on my mind. It was obvious that I thought about you all the time....I guess it’s in both of our minds. That was before you showed me your true colour. If I can remember clearly you said you loved me ...you called almost every second and it made me like you the more...then I decided to give you a try even though my heart has been broken a thousand times before then someone gave me love and that somebody was you...but I didn’t know whether it was the right time to tell you...I was waiting for the right time ...And when I finally made up my mind to tell you then it was over..So it takes me back to square one the heartbroken girl. I thought you will be so patient with me to understand me but little did I know that you were slipping away from me so fast and crushing on another ...how bad you hurt my soul my friends have tried to fill the gap but it can’t be filled. Now am just wasting my precious time because I still can’t get my act together... Here’s my question why can’t we make it last forever just like in the fairy tale world I believed in us so badly.... I still dream of you and I together saying you know we can achieve it. I can’t believe all you were saying where just empty words and promises. On that horrible night I just made up my mind, I’m going to keep my tears away. There’s no cause to look back since the only thing it brings is pain ...I just want to let it go... don’t nobody want a broken heart right what type of a love brings only pain. I believe everything happens for a reason... Every decision happens due to a circumstance. I thought i was your love....I love the way you stared at me ...I felt the chemistry... You used to spend your evenings with me...All of my friends used to laugh @ me but I didn’t care... Why can’t my story end with a happily ever after like every other person.
2. Now that you’re gone for real... there’s no one to make me angry. Why did it have to be you again?
How do I get through this.... what kind of life is this? Now i have no topic to write about. My poems suck because I am just in a really dark pit. Why did you of all people have to be mean.....? I want to hold does sweaty hands of yours. OMG! I just remembered that crazy ride we had together... we had fun! Why can’t you remember all these?
3. Lets accept reality its wasn’t meant to be!
The end {let’s try and be discrete}