Whats on her mind Today?

She sits down to think? Is the problem with her or is the problem that she thinks she has a problem......

All through her thoughts are all these numerous questions but ama break it down to just ten.

1. Why is she so cautious?

Hmmh maybe its cause a lot of us, from an early age have been taught to fear men and strangers. It was mostly our parents' attempt to protect us, but a lot of times the social conditioning sticks. For a woman, the consequences of making a mistake far outweighs the consequences of letting an opportunity go by. I mean say you're a guy and you go out with a woman. What's the worst that can happen? She turns out to be ugly and you take her home. What's the worst thing that can happen to a woman? The guy can take her to some remote location and rape her. Self-defense or not, most women cannot take on a guy one-on-one. Yeah, most men aren't rapists either...but it's far better to be cautious than to make the mistake.

If you look at some psychological studies asking people what they regret most, women mostly regret DOING something, while men mostly regret NOT DOING something (ex. sleeping with person X).
Lastly, women who get approached a lot learn that most guys and most dates tend not to be worth it and it gets really dissappointing.There isn't enough time out there to waste on relationships or bad dates, and unless I feel a date will be good (i.e. there is attraction and comfort), I'd rather do something else with my time.

2. Why is she so pyshed about committments?

I don't think ANY man can really empathize with a woman the way he can empathize with another man; female sex issues are very different from the male sex issues, in that the pressures they are under (don't be a "slut", don't be "easy", don't get pregnant, etc) are so different from that of the male sex issues (don't be a pussy, take the initiative, get laid a lot, etc).

But anyway, the idea is this: women face a much greater risk of harm in dealing with the opposite sex than men do, and by age 20 or so, most women have been harmed (or at least almost been harmed) by men enough times to have a slightly paranoid default attitude toward them. The idea is, a man is a creep until proven otherwise. If you think this is harsh imagine this scenario ( That is for them guys:

1) you wake up tomorrow, and because of some freak biological accident, most women are suddenly bigger, stronger, and more sexually aggressive than men are

2) you turn on the news, and start seeing an endless stream of stories of men being raped and murdered by the newly masculinized women

3) you notice that women you aren't at all attracted to are staring at you and hollering obscene sexual innuendos at you; remember that these girls are much larger and stronger than you and you just saw ten different stories of women raping and murdering men in the news earlier today

4) let's say one day a particularly large, ugly, scary looking woman starts following you home. you try to tell people, but they think you're paranoid.

5) now assume that assumptions 1 to 4 have been true ALL YOUR LIFE


... in this scenario, do you think maybe you'd ever on the side of caution in dealing with women? well, this is the reality women deal with when it comes to men.

3. Why cant she give him another chance?

She always made the mistake of giving him a chance to explain and he always got away with it . Cause he was really good at persuading her.But she got fed up with always listening to his flamezee excuses. Even if it hurt her real bad to see them finally part ways deep inside her soul she knew it was the right to do. He had no right to treat her the way he did.And hopefully he would realise his mistake soon enough.Sometimes when we are emotionally invested in a relationship it is hard for us to let go because we feel if we hold on just a little bit longer our investment will pan out and we will hit the love gold mine. That is not true here. generally speaking that is not the way it works with men. They enjoy the hunt going after the woman they had last dated after. And i really find that amazingly silly.

4. why does she stick to old moments?

Well in those old memories lies mysteries of how and why life gets compicated. And it has been scientifically proven that old memories stick permanently in our brains. And it never lets go it just depends on how u make does memories into something positive. even though sometimes flash backs make you feel kinda weird.

5. Why does her life always seem complicated?

Complicated and simple are actually two sides of the same coin: in order to see complexity, you have to have the notion of simplicity, and vice-versa. So neither complexity NOR simplicity have any independent reality of their own.

But so what? That's not really what we humans are concerned about when this question comes up, is it? What we want to really know is "why am I confused, and how can I know what's important and what to focus on?" There's an anxiety associated with this sense that life is so complex that it's pulling us in many directions at once and we can't get "centered".Life is essentially only as complicated as we make it. We do go through rough patches, but they don't last forever.

Life is not about drama. I have friends that always have drama around them. They are exhausted and frantic most of the time.

Now during the teen years, life is complicated because you are learning how to be an adult and your hormones are going crazy. But, once again, that is a temporary thing.

We' ll thats about it! Well keep you posted when other thoughts come through this weird mind of mine.